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Adyuth's 4th Anniversary

  This day 4yrs ago changed my life forever. I can remember every detail as if it happened yesterday. I can't believe it's been 4yrs already. I did struggle yesterday not to remember the painful events that lead to his demise. For some reason, I felt I was comparatively stronger last year around this time. I guess the wound does not heal completely after all and that it does prick once a while. I couldn't help but think how my daughter and my son would have gotten along if he were alive. I started to imagine scenarios and their reactions and behaviours until I started to cry and it was only then I reminded myself to stop and return back to the reality. I chose to wear the dress that I wore the last time he was alive and moving within me. I never regarded this dress special until today suddenly.... I try my best to think the best of Adyuth so I can smile everytime I am reminded of him, but it's not something that's in my control. I realised I do keep wavering, yet...
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Adyuth's 3rd Anniversary

  Can't believe it's been 3 yrs.... should I say 3yrs of losing him or 3 yrs of having him in my memory. Yes, this day wells up my eyes and heart. I can't stop thinking how he would have looked. How his voice would have been, how naughty he would have been. I never shared the feeling of his loss with my daughter. Instead I kept telling her that I was happy to have her and that I'm fine because of her but she felt I hadn't acknowledged the loss of Adyuth and I had forgotten him which would make him sad. I had to explain her that I did not forget him even for a moment but I just didn't want her to get upset because I was upset. I realised, she felt better being open and normal about Adyuth, it made her realise I loved both of them equally because, although he is gone he means so much to her and she keeps talking to me about him. When she sees an annoying brother of her friend she says she wonders if Adyuth would have been like that. She says she pretends to have h...

2nd Anniversary of My Baby Boy!

He was born silent into this world but his lifelessness spoke volumes... Today marks my Adyuth's 2nd Anniversary. I cannot say enough how my life changed after having him and after losing him. The pain fades but the scar remains..forever. However, I have learned to cherish him more than I grieve for him. Although it came with so much pain, I appreciate the strength he has given me to stand up all alone if I have to and fight for what is right. He teases me with his memories but calms me with the same. He taught me heaps of lessons during these 2 years and he still does. He keeps me fighting till I get an answer and he never lets me quit. He showed me how much I mean to others and how much others mean to me. The relationship I share with my angel son is unique, one that only mothers like me would realise, for those who cannot realise it, so be it, I would never want any mother to feel what I feel. As I did last year, I wanted to pay a visit to the cemetery where he was cre...

My Still Born Turns 1 Today!

21/04/2018 was the worst day ever in my life... The day I heard the 4 words that ended the life I had, 4 words that changed who I was..., "There is no Heartbeat". I had never even imagined it would happen to me, for he was such an active baby! He was a miracle baby from the very beginning, More than a coincidence, I had the same LMP for him as my daughter who just turned 7 two days ago. The date I went to confirm pregnancy with a doctor was same, Due date was different by 1 day though but the date they planned to induce me was the due date given to my daughter. It was a very difficult pregnancy for me compared to my first one. First, me being in a different country for the first ever time and I had just started on a job, secondly I was vomiting a lot and I had a 5 year old to take care, I hated almost all food, I just ate avocado and banana for the first 3 months. This lil bub inside me was very needy! while I did not have any cravings with my first one this one was ...